2024 reminders 🫧

1. Detachment is my response to any awful, misleading, and inconsistent treatment. I know what l want, I will stick to it.

2. When I'm alone, it doesn't mean I have to feel lonely. I PURPOSELY want to be just by myself.

3. Sticking to the fact that I'm not made for

situationships, backburner relationships, or anything that is not secure. That means being single for now, but secure with my being.

4. Normalize changing careers over time if better opportunities knock.

5. Serving and helping people without fostering a people-pleasing identity.

6. I don't need to feel guilty when I'm in self-care.

7. Delay of gratification and knowing what specific behaviors DESERVE reward.

8. No more forcing of alignment of stars when I know we are meant to be in a different universe.

9. REST IS A NECESSITY NOT A REWARD.

10. Having a realistic relationship where my needs are not fixed but flexible. Having to compromise for them without emptying my needs.

11. Some days it's gonna be difficult. Don't try to outrun everything, let it happen. Some difficult days just fade out eventually.

12. Honoring my scars and past experiences by knowing what behaviors trigger me, and letting the person know.

13. I hope to revive some of my dying passions and forgotten hobbies after dealing everything in survival mode.

14. Not every drama needs a response.

15. Maybe our situation and who we are right now are not REALLY wired for romantic relationships, and that is fine.

16. l don't have to paralyze myself in the PRESENT in the hopes that l'll do everything in the future. You cannot have all freedom in one lifetime. I can't just survive for the sake of my future, I also need to exist in the Present.

17. Acknowledging the fact that some music, movies, and quotes trigger a memory that leaves us ruminating again. Aware of the fact that when we find pleasure in some nostalgia, it can also bring an unhealthy state.

18. The skill of reinventing yourself because who cares about the pressure of having a constant identity that doesn't adapt to a changing environment?

19. My fascination for things and my tendency to have a childlike appreciation do not make me IMMATURE.

20. The clout chaser in me who takes pictures as much as possible because I still have a GOOD GRIP on what makes me happy, AND BECAUSE MY LIFE DIDN'T END LAST YEAR.

21. Allowing myself to be INDIFFERENT to some people. Not loving them. Not hating them. I just don't know what to feel, and that's okay.

22. I know it may be hard to follow some sort of advice, but having it HARD doesn't make it impossible. Sticking to the fact that I can still unlearn what seems to be impossible to change for me.

23. My inner critic should stop making me feel awful when I make mistakes or I'm just starting on some things. Every master cringes at the beginning.

24. Any misstep, failure, or temporary rejection does not ERASE my history of accomplishing things and the VERY FACT that I have always survived and carried myself well.

25. Adding this and will prioritize this until my last day here on earth: I will protect myself from every thing/person that no longer serves me peace. My mental health comes first. Only dealing with people worth spending my time for.